Have you noticed how fun and exciting it can be to share about your goals and dreams with other people? To talk about what you intend to accomplish, what you dream about for yourself, and how exciting certain ideas are to you? I've noticed it too. But I've learned something very important: if I have a goal, to shut up about it.
Shutting up about our goals is important because what you intend to do matters a whole lot less than what you are actually doing. And if you are not mindful about how and who you talk to about your goals, you might be tricking yourself into a false sense of accomplishment.
Speak about your goals to those who can counsel you, not those who will congratulate you. You know who those people are. The ones who will bring you back down to earth, who can challenge you by bursting your bubble and will inspire you by expanding your vision. That's valuable. It's not useful, though, to be talking about it with people who will just say things like, "Oh, wow, that's awesome! How cool that you're doing something like that!" That celebration is premature because you're not doing it. You're talking about doing it. And that is a very important distinction.
So I say, shut up about it. Put your head down and get to work. If you have goals, good. Make sure they're big enough to scare your pants off. And do something each day that gets you closer to it. Don't tell anyone what you've done today. Sit alone with your sense of satisfaction that you've moved a step closer to your goal, and your knowing that there is a lot of work still to do.
What I'm really talking about here is the death of the "destination mentality". This notion that by going somewhere over the rainbow life will be all peachy. I just need to get the right relationship, or the right career, or make the right investment. Because if we get any of those things, we still have to show up each day and do our best. So celebrate, and enjoy the journey! This very day is a beautiful opportunity to bring your dreams a step closer to reality.